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What to Do When Your Partner Doesn’t Want Sex (and You Do)
What do you do when you’re craving intimacy, but your partner isn’t on the same page? How do you express desire without guilt or pressure — and still get your needs met?
In this episode of Honest Feedback, we answer a tender listener question from a husband trying to navigate a season of mismatched intimacy with his wife. With humor, honesty, and lived experience, we unpack the deeper dynamics of sexual disconnection and offer real, tangible ways to reconnect with your partner and yourself.
Brittney and Lisset share their own journey through mismatched libido, healing sexual trauma, and redefining what intimacy actually means in a long-term relationship. We talk about sex beyond penetration, spontaneous vs. responsive desire, creating rituals of curiosity, and the power of pleasure-centered communication. Plus, shoutouts to books (Come As You Are & Come Together), mentors (hi Libido Fairy), and the truth that sex is supposed to be fun.
Whether you’re the one with higher desire or the one feeling pressure, this episode is here to help you navigate the conversation with love, honesty, and a whole lot of laughter.
This episode is for you if:
- You’ve ever felt the sting of sexual rejection (or feared giving it)
- You want more intimacy but don’t know how to ask
- You’re ready to expand what sex can look like in a long-term relationship
- You’re craving new tools, perspective, and permission to talk about it
Resources Mentioned:
- Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
- Come Together by Emily Nagoski
- Libido Fairy (Hannah Decker – @libidofairy)
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So we avoid the sex that we're not actually enjoying, and so I'm gonna hold your hand while I say this Is it possible, and are you guys open to having a conversation of what is our sex life like in this moment? Do each of us enjoy what we're experiencing in this moment, and not from a place of like blaming or shaming or you're doing this wrong, but like getting curious again. Coming back to curiosity of like, what do I like? What don't I like, because if there's something, if you're not having sex that you enjoy, we stop ourselves way before sex is even on the table. Welcome to Honest Feedback, the podcast where deep truth meets bold transformation. I'm goddess Brittany King, a pleasure priestess and a transformational retreat facilitator who helps women connect to their deepest truths, reclaim their pleasure and awaken their inner power. And I'm Lissette.
Lisset :King, an emotional ninja and transformational coach who helps leaders release baggage, heal unresolved trauma and step into their most aligned, purposeful lives.
Goddess Brittney:We've created this podcast for spirit-led individuals just like you, Seekers of truth, personal growth and meaningful connection.
Lisset :Whether you're navigating life's big questions, craving more joy and fulfillment, or simply looking for honest, relatable conversations, you're in the right place. Hi and welcome back to Honest Feedback. We are here for another amazing episode, yeah, and today we have something really special going on, don't we?
Goddess Brittney:We do. I feel really honored that we're talking about something that a lot of people feel nervous to talk about. That's right. Let's talk about sex, baby. Let's talk about you and me. This is one of my favorite topics. Like I'm like yeah, let's talk about it every dinner table.
Lisset :Yeah, I know Every dinner table I'm like my mom doesn't want to hear about it.
Goddess Brittney:Your mom loves to talk about it. You're not wrong. You're not wrong, but seriously, it can be a topic that brings up a lot for people. Some people feel uncomfortable, some people experience shame, some people experience doubt. Anybody wondering like, oh, am I as good as I think I am in bed, like you, know all the things, all the thoughts, and so we have a really tender listener question diving in around sex relationship and what to do when you and your partner are feeling mismatched in your desire for sex. Have you had any experience with this, dr King?
Lisset :Oh, my goodness, yes.
Goddess Brittney:Yeah.
Lisset :Yeah, We've. We've actually had a little experience of this and I'm sure we'll dive deeper into it in our own personal lives. But I've certainly felt a mismatch, either having more of a drive or less of a drive, depending on who I was dating. When I dated men, I had less of a drive. We can figure out where that problem came from.
Goddess Brittney:You know, when I was dating men, I actually had a really intense sex drive and I was like this there was never enough, and I think it was because I was starving. You know, like we're just like there. There there was no nourishment in the, in the food and the offering, and so I was like constantly being like well, maybe there's more if we just have sex more. Yeah, then maybe I will feel how I think I'm supposed to feel Empty calories, turns out I'm gay.
Lisset :Turns out you're gay, I know. Shocker.
Goddess Brittney:I know it wasn't shocking, it was more of like a surprise. Yeah, yeah. Well, we are very excited to get into this episode, but before we do, we have a very exciting news and a special guest.
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Goddess Brittney:I mean, this is something you don't skimp on, like sex. Okay, let's dive in. Okay, okay, ready. Hey, brittany and Lissette, I've been sitting with this for a while and I finally worked up the nerve to write in because I trust the way you two talk about intimacy and emotional nuance.
Goddess Brittney:My wife and I have been together for seven years and I love her deeply. We've been through so much together, built a life, a home and a lot of beautiful connection. But lately our sex drives are just totally misaligned. I tend to want more physical intimacy than she does, and it's been this quiet undercurrent of tension in our relationship. I've tried to bring it up gently and, while she's open and receptive, I can feel the guilt weighing on her. I don't want to pressure her. I don't want her to feel like she's broken or failing me. At the same time, I've been ignoring my own needs and it's starting to breed resentment, not because of her, but because I don't know how to hold both of us with compassion. I guess my question is how can I support her, be honest about what I'm feeling and still honor my own desires without either of us feeling like we're failing the other?
Goddess Brittney:They signed it anonymously, but he him, okay, anonymous. Thank you so much for writing this in Like. I do not take it lightly. Sex is one of the most intimate and primal experiences, and sharing about it, or when we're seeking desire of support and help around it, is a really tender spot. Babe, do you want to kick us off? Yeah, yeah, when it comes to sex it takes a village to raise us.
Lisset :I also want to acknowledge my voice is very sultry right now because, I'm getting over a cold. It's like I'm like Phoebe on Friends, my sticky shoes Exactly. I actually do know this problem intimately.
Goddess Brittney:Like.
Lisset :I've been here with. We've been here together when we both played both sides, and so I really want to speak into this. Writer. You know we have been in a deep healing journey our entire lives, and especially since we've been together. We've been on this deep healing journey, yes, and when moments come up, there has been a mismatch.
Victoria :And when there's been a mismatch.
Lisset :I'll speak for me how challenging that is when you're in a full, complete shutdown, or shut in because you're in your healing process, and she has experienced it on the other side as well, and in those moments I've noticed like how much I felt rejected you know, like I have these needs and I'm like I shouldn't be having these needs because you're healing right now and I shouldn't like want to.
Lisset :you know I shouldn't want or need sex from you when you're healing. I didn't like want to. You know I shouldn't want or need sex from you when you're healing, and that's and that's so I just love. First of all, I want to say you're, you're so coming to both of you with compassion. Yeah, like you, you even reaching out. Is you wanting to meet your partner where she is?
Lisset :And that's so, that's so beautiful, and one of the things that we, that we did and what I had to make okay with myself was sharing, being okay, sharing my desire, knowing it's not necessarily going to be met, and sitting in the discomfort of it. There were moments where I just had to be like babe, I'm having these needs and they're not being met and I'm feeling really deprived and I'm not asking you to fix this in any way shape deprived and I'm not asking you to fix this in any way, shape or form.
Lisset :I don't need you to fix this, I just need to feel heard and seen that I have these desires and that way I'm not feeling like sitting in my own resentment and sitting in my own rejection of shoving it down, like avoiding in the old ways that I used to avoid.
Goddess Brittney:Yeah, I feel like you bring to light something that's really can be a universal experience of when someone says I'm not interested in this moment, or something like that. We feel like this is a personal attack, yeah, and like I'm being rejected, yes, attack, and like I'm being rejected. And I remember one time you were having an experience where you were healing through something and you were like I need to not be intimate in this time. I think I just I burst into tears. I burst into tears, but it was early times.
Goddess Brittney:That was early times, yeah, it was early times, but I burst into tears and what came up for me was really taking it personally and not honoring, like she's having her own experience us, that we both have experienced big T traumas around sex, and so sometimes it's like, oh, here's another layer to heal of that thing or the other thing, and so we've had to navigate that with each other and learned how to not take it personally. And so this brings me to one of my things is how can we create a safe space for honesty and vulnerability about sex? That's not necessarily like in the midst of either, stating your desire for like when you're in the middle of like, hey, are we? Are we not about to have sex? But like? Can we create a safe container that is separate than like in the bedroom, you know, in Republicans, where we can each be heard and shared and seen? Mm-hmm.
Lisset :Yeah, and there's. There's a few things with being, with sharing and being seen is, first of all, it's not freaking comfortable, so get over that. Get over that. You know, to state your desire, knowing it's not going to be met, is incredibly challenging and vulnerable, and so you're leaning into that as well as creating a safe space to share what's going on. And in that safe space, it's trying to create the space of not having reactions and rather having responses to each other and still seeing each other as, like, this is a person that I love and we're on the same team. We're on the same team and we want, more than anything, to please each other.
Lisset :The love is there and the desire is there to to love on each other and serve. And who are we when we step back and go? I actually can't give this person what they need right now, and can that be okay? Yeah?
Goddess Brittney:I feel like you've introduced also a deeper concept around. Even having these conversations and that's the first thing that struck out to me about your question was like safety and creating a container where someone feels safe enough to share their desires. And so my first question was does your partner feel safe enough to share her desires with you, what she wants and what she does not want? And so safe is like a way of how do we feel, like, will I be okay to share this with the other person? And quote unquote, not upset them, not be a fight, not blah blah.
Goddess Brittney:And for some of these questions like, does your partner feel safe enough to do this with you, and does your partner feel safe enough to do this with you? And does your partner feel safe enough to do this by themselves, have they been able to create the space and safety within themselves to start to ask themselves what do I like, what do I not like in sex? Like, what do I prefer? What would feel good? How do I feel about these things? And so it's honoring do you and your partner have that shared safety together? If not, what would we need to create that? And asking your partner to reflect with themselves do they have that with themselves, and that might be step one of creating safety with yourself, because it's hard to share with someone else. Hey, this is what I like and this is what I'm into. If you are unwilling or not knowing what it's like with yourself, and that might be her own work, to do that is separate than you.
Lisset :Yeah, you know, the space of safety is so important and in that safety, it opens up the space for intimacy, and so, creating that like I can speak to you fully, I know that I can speak to you and whatever you say is going to be your truth and that's worth its weight in gold. You know, just knowing that, that I'll be like, okay, I have this desire. Well, I don't right now and I'm like, okay, that's the truth. How do I, how do I still feel safe in my body and it doesn't mean she doesn't want me and I, yeah, we can make up all sorts of stories. We can make up all sorts of stories.
Goddess Brittney:Yeah, we've, we've made up some stories before guilty. Yeah, making up the stories, I feel like, as someone who works in pleasure, I have also had my own experiences and challenges and navigating pleasure and feeling like, oh gosh, like I don't want to have sex like all the time Like I used to. Is there something wrong? Am I dying? You know like what's happening, you know, and so I have read books and done research. And so there is a woman Dr I don't know if she's a doctor Emily Nagoski, and she wrote the book Come as you Are, an incredible book, and she also wrote this book called Come Together, specifically about couples and relationship, and coming as you are is about the female orgasm. Highly recommend both of those books.
Goddess Brittney:But in Come Together, something that she said that really stuck out to me is we avoid what we don't enjoy, so we avoid the sex that we're not actually enjoying, and so I'm gonna hold your hand while I say this. Is it possible, and are you guys open to having a conversation of what is our sex life like in this moment? Enjoy what we're experiencing in this moment, and not from a place of like blaming or shaming or you're doing this wrong, but like getting curious again coming back to curiosity of like, what do I like, what don't I like? Because if there's something, if you're not having sex, that you enjoy, then it's like, oh, I'm just gonna just talk freely. Okay, he does this thing that I don't like, that he does, but it seems like he likes it. I don't want to disappoint him, so I'm going to let him do it, but I don't really like it. So then sex happens and it's like, oh, that was just not great.
Goddess Brittney:Then it feels like someone's trying to initiate sex and it's like, oh, I don't want him to do that thing. Way before sex is even on the table, it's like, oh, it's going to lead to sex. And then we're going to be back in that situation where he's doing the thing and I don't like do you see the thing? And it's like, right, and so if we're like I don't enjoy that thing, but I don't know how to say I don't like that specific thing, then we'll just go, I'll just, we'll just delete the whole. We'll do a lot of things to not have an uncomfortable conversation, all right, like who's been there?
Lisset :Yeah, we got some avoidant people. I'm sure they're listening. If you're avoidant, it's okay. Just skip the next 30 seconds. I'm kidding. That's the thing about being avoidant is that you need to communicate, you need to communicate and you need to communicate often, so there's not resentment building up. And these types of communications are very challenging, can be very challenging at times, and that's why Brittany and I have we have meetings, we have relationship check-ins every week.
Lisset :Relationship check-ins every week. Before that we've had Radar's longer relationship check-ins every six weeks so that we can have a container about talking about it regularly. And if you're not willing to have the challenging conversation, it's just going to build up into resentment.
Goddess Brittney:Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. So one of the how you phrased it was like how can I support my wife in this experience? How can we have honest communication? How can we create safety with each other and with ourselves? How can we start to have a conversation about the kind of sex we enjoy? And I would just love to just throw this sprinkle in there Oftentimes, what I've experienced and noticed in the conversation around heterosexual sex is that sex is defined as a P and a V, and that is what we are defining as sex, and so I would invite you to explore a more bountiful table of what sex could be.
Goddess Brittney:And if we are opening to the space of sex, is not necessarily penetration, penis fingers, anything. What else can we experience in a sensual and sexual space that feels good to both of us? That also might start to unwind some other things, because sometimes people are like, oh and this is I'll just speak personally Sometimes I'm like I am not wanting penetrative sex. I am open to being intimate and sexy in other ways. But I in the past have been like, oh, if someone was saying like, do you want to have sex? It's like feels like a yes or no of like, do I want to be penetrated. And if that's a no, then it's like oh, I guess I'm no to all of these things.
Lisset :Yeah, and I wasn't actually no to all of those things I think this is, this was the goal mind for us, because what happened was we started to create space for intimacy without a goal. Yes, we started to go. Okay, what if we, for a certain for an hour, on a weekend, you know and shout out to libido fairy? We'll probably talk more about her, but let's make a space that's just us laying together and kissing and just having intimacy, without the goal of orgasm.
Goddess Brittney:Yes, and that opened up so much space for us well, I mean, we're already here, so I I believe in investing in yourself what I believe in investing in pleasure.
Goddess Brittney:So when I was having this experience, I was like I have a lot of tools and I am in need of a mentor and I'm in need of a container to hold me to look at this, of what's going on.
Goddess Brittney:And so I went to the Libido Fairy Shout out to Hannah, she's really incredible, super amazing and, you know, funnily enough enough, it wasn't stuff I didn't know, shocker and I needed the container to hold me so that I could see it and hear things in a new way and get a new perspective on quote unquote what I thought I already knew, because there's always more to know. And one of my biggest takeaways from her was asking myself what do I need to be open or willing for connection? So taking orgasms away from sex of like, if it's not orgasm focused, what if sex is connection focused? And it was like I do want to connect with my partner, I do want to connect with my partner in this intimate, physical way. What do I need to be open or willing to create that connection? And so ask yourself, ask your partner. One of my biggest things that I got from that was like turning down the turn off. So, like, what are the things that turn you off?
Goddess Brittney:What are the things that are like full stop, like if this is happening, I'm not getting close to being willing to be intimate you know, like and for me, like some people, it's like messy rooms and things like that, and I was like that doesn't bother me as much, but like vibes really do matter to me and so like, if there's like weird harsh lighting, that's not the vibe.
Lisset :Weird music.
Goddess Brittney:Weird music no, yeah, it's immediate, like I can't do anything, yeah.
Lisset :Yeah, or you know, being in a space that's dirty, yeah, or like messy.
Goddess Brittney:I can't do messy. She can't do messy. I can't do messy. Messy was okay for me if things were clean, but like if the there's like weird energy in the room, yeah, no, we can't have any poltergeist going on no, no, but like turning down.
Goddess Brittney:But for some people it's like, hey, if there's dishes in the sink, that's a turnout. For me it was, um, open work tabs, and so I needed to make make sure that I created a way to literally wind down from work, close all the tabs, put things that were in my head on a piece of paper so they wouldn't be just floating around in my head, because that was a big turnoff of all of a sudden it's like oh a client, oh an email. Then it was just like I'm not able to be present. So asking yourselves, what are the things that turn us off? What are the things that make us stop from being willing or being open to being intimate with each other? And let's actually focus on turning down those things. Beautiful, beautiful. Shout out to Libby DeFerry.
Lisset :Oh, yeah, yeah, and I think one of the things I loved about that was even just creating that languaging of are you open to maybe being willing to? Possibly we would just draw it out for a while just to have fun with it and then I was like oh, I'm a literal listener and a very direct communicator.
Lisset :So if I'm not getting like my clothes ripped off of me I didn't know so when she would start that language I'm like uh-huh. I'm like when you're my clothes ripped off of me I didn't know so when she would start that language, I'm like uh-huh. I'm like when you're about to tell the dogs that they can go on a walk, I was like okay it's happening, it's happening, it's happening. My tail starts wagging. It's great.
Goddess Brittney:Well, it was amazing when we just opened again opened the space of like non-orgasm focus, connection, fun, focus, pleasure focus, and allowing the space of oh, what do I need?
Goddess Brittney:To be open and willing and allowing more spontaneity, more fun, more responsiveness Emily Nagowski talks about this as well in coming together, a bridging activity.
Goddess Brittney:So having an activity that creates connection and closeness before we start to get into a more naked intimacy place and I mean you could be the bridging activity could be naked, like maybe it's massages, maybe it's a shower together, maybe it's a walk together, maybe it's eye gazing, but oftentimes she described it, there's like spontaneous desire, responsive desire, but a lot of times, again, this was like a heterosexual experience. She was saying, like most heterosexual sex is like 6 to 13 minutes and most women take 20 to 30 plus minutes to be warm and like lubricated and in the space of arousal for desire. So if you're in a heterosexual relationship and the sex is 6 to 13 minutes, minutes, but it takes 20 to 30 minutes to even be in the space of desire for it, are we seeing how there could be like a mismatch? So creating like, what are the bridging activities that could lead us into the experience of being wanting to have the intimacy um, you're full on the appetizer and I haven't even eaten yet.
Goddess Brittney:I know and then it's like I mean it just really changed my whole world. Because then it's like, oh gosh. Well, like now that I'm here at the restaurant, like I'd love a feast, I'd love a dessert, I'd also love espresso. At the end of the meal, you know like well, let's have an avocado, let's have grapes, let's have a cheese platter, let's have to really relax into an experience, as opposed to like I got seven minutes, you wanna do it?
Lisset :It's like uh no, cheese plates, cheese plates are eternal.
Goddess Brittney:Let me check my notes. Oh, at the end of your question you were saying how can I hold space for her, hold space for myself and decide none, and like not feel like either of us are failing. And I just have like a you know direct, like what if you just decided that nobody's failing? Yeah, what if it's not failure? It's feedback, yeah, and you're getting feedback on, hey, this is how this aspect of our relationship is going in this moment. Um, this, I feel like take it as an opportunity of what do we each want from the sexual relationship, the sexual nature in our relationship.
Lisset :Yeah, you know, and I really want to just also speak directly to you it's okay to have the desire in it not be met Like full on, full stop. You can share it. I do this thing where I want things that I know I'm not going to get, and it's like it could be like baby. I have a desire and she's like okay, what is it? I'm like I would like an ice cream and a waffle cone. And she goes okay, she was, you want to do something about it? I'm like no, I've got goals. I just needed to say it out loud and there's. There's just like a little, like a little release in the valve. That makes me feel better and sometimes I need to be witnessed in my desire.
Goddess Brittney:You know, this just popped in. I'm like improv class there's, sometimes there's a game. It's like a like a yes and, but maybe it's like a end, but maybe it's like so, it's like if, like it's like hey, I'm feeling really sensual and like I want to do X, y and Z sexually and someone could be like oh, thank you so much for sharing your desire with me. How I'm feeling is ABC. And they're like like oh, I could be interested in abc. Or it's like oh, I like c. Have you considered d? Like there are spaces to.
Goddess Brittney:You know, consider just so many graphic things are coming ahead and I'm like I just don't know how uncensored I can be on my own podcast I know, it's just like oh who. It's just like oh, who wants to? It's like I would like to eat your ass, yeah. And then someone else is like, oh, okay, Okay.
Lisset :Okay, all right, interested in that, interested in that. Maybe not in this moment, maybe not. I just got back from the gym.
Goddess Brittney:Yeah, but you okay yeah, because your family listens to this Whatever, there are no secrets in the film Leslie. But it's like, oh, I could be interested in naked cuddling, that would feel really good. And it's like, ooh, naked cuddling feels good. Would you be interested in receiving a vulva massage? You know what I would be interested in receiving a vulva massage. You know what I would be interested in receiving a vulva massage.
Lisset :Great Look at what we found there. Yeah, absolutely, there's such a wider range for you to play in and we're inviting you to play there. Play, we're costumes, like play.
Goddess Brittney:Wear costumes.
Lisset :We're queer. It's just a big old playground here. Yeah, like it's constantly discovering and exploring and doing all the things Like think beyond your penis, yes, think beyond your penis, because there's so much playground. Think beyond genitals. Think beyond genitals Like yes, we'll ride the sky eventually, but let's play on the monkey bars.
Goddess Brittney:There's so much to play. I mean, I'll just be frank, there's a lot of spaces that orgasms can happen anywhere. So, emily, again she talks about the most important experience to have an orgasm. To experience that kind of release of pleasure is actually your brain, it's not anything else, which is why you can read a book and have an orgasm. To experience that kind of release of pleasure is actually your brain, it's not anything else, which is why you can read a book and have an orgasm. This is why you can see a thing and feel aroused.
Lisset :You need to share your book list because I have yet to read a book and have an orgasm. Is it just the book? Sorry?
Goddess Brittney:No, I mean, they write very sexy scenes.
Lisset :Get on book talk y'all, so you read the sexy scene and then you do something over here.
Goddess Brittney:No, sometimes I just read it and I just feel the energy of it.
Lisset :Whoa. Okay, see, I'm going to need that book list and that's my experience.
Goddess Brittney:I'm a very sensual, energetic.
Lisset :She is.
Victoria :I'm a very energetic.
Goddess Brittney:So like energy can make me have an orgasm. One time she was playing the guitar and that experience allowed me to have an orgasm. But it's just like you got to think outside the box. I'm really good, but it's just what happens when we take the pressure off, allow ourselves to explore, allow ourselves to get curious, start to decide what feels safe enough to share with our partners. And the more you share, the more I just feel like the better sex gets in. Like I have been able to share with her of. Like oh, you know, when you do this particular thing like I, actually that doesn't feel good.
Lisset :And like oh, and she'll be like okay, great, what would feel better? Yeah, what would feel better. What would you like? Yeah, like, not my gumdrop friend.
Goddess Brittney:But again, like it's like if we're not having the experiences, what we enjoy, we will just really cut ourselves off and that experience that you can not enjoy could literally be. It could be trauma, it could be stress, it can be literally just a thing one does, you know.
Lisset :I just want to. One of the things that I that I love about Brittany is that we have so much fun and people who have stayed over our house they hear that fun, yeah, and I one of one of our friends recently reflected to us how much he loved it, how much we laughed. Yeah, and we're not laughing. It's the blooper reel that's making us laugh and and it's like the fun, but like we just like it's supposed to be fun y'all, yeah don't forget yeah, don't forget, it's supposed, like it's, don't go into sex, oh wow, so serious.
Goddess Brittney:Yeah, no, it's supposed to be fun.
Lisset :Us and dolphins, we do it for fun, don't forget, have fun. We laugh, we laugh so hard, so hard. Yeah, we can jokes, yeah, we make jokes, and they're just like oh, so you don't like that okay all right, that's fine, we'll try something else it's a big old playground.
Goddess Brittney:Yes, so, have fun, have fun. I mean fun, I mean, oh, okay, this is my last little sprinklet from the fun thing is checking in with each other and just seeing is sex in our relationship a priority? Yeah, is it a priority. Sometimes we have different priorities and I just saw a TikTok about this, about like people are going for balance and it's not about balance. There are seasons and there are seasons of certain experiences and things and you're going for something and it's about how do we rest and recuperate in between the seasons. So, just checking in, hey, are we in a season where sex is a priority for us? Are we in a season where there's something else that might be a priority for us? Are we in a season where there's something else that might be a priority for us? Maybe it's the kids, maybe you're going after a new goal in your career, something like that.
Goddess Brittney:But like, checking in around that it's like cool, are we on the same page of like level of priority for this? If we are, let's invest there and invest with our time, with our energy and with our money. Yeah, like, like. Do we need more times with dates? Do we need to get more babysitters? Do we need more weekends away. We love a just cuz trip and it's like we get child care for our dogs, you know, and it's like it's time for us to focus on us. I invested. I was like this is something that's important to me. I'm going to invest with a mentor, yeah, who specializes in this. I teach, like are you going to? Are you willing to put your time, energy, money into what you're saying is a priority? Yeah, sometimes you gotta buy more rope.
Lisset :You gotta yeah, you gotta get a gallon of lube yes, you gotta you gotta get a kiddie bowl like you, just gotta run with it you just don't know you don know, you gotta get some of those kid masks Remember the little plastic masks.
Goddess Brittney:Sometimes, you have to buy things, and the vibrators I like are luscious. They're luscious, they're lusciously priced, because I only want the best on my pussy.
Lisset :For all these reasons, for all these reasons and more you're listening to one of our most probably lowest listener count on youtube, but you know, it's totally fine. It's totally fine, we're gonna get so shadow banned. No, yeah, delete, delete, unsubscribe. It's fine, it's a right we're talking about it educationally.
Goddess Brittney:It's an educational podcast. I'll just say education over and over again. Education. She's a sex educator For educational purposes, only Educational yeah. Are you guys feeling educated? Yeah?
Lisset :Sex-wise.
Goddess Brittney:That's weird.
Lisset :That's my sex fire pit. I'm kidding. I'm kidding If my family's listening. I'm kidding.
Goddess Brittney:No, I've never set her on fire, not without her consent.
Lisset :That's the way. Her eyebrows are tattooed on.
Goddess Brittney:No, you guys have known us very intimately.
Victoria :today, Welcome to our last episode.
Lisset :No, I'm allowed to joke, okay.
Goddess Brittney:Well, I don't even know how to move out from where we're at.
Lisset :I don't know we're so deep in this hole. Oh my God, so deep in this hole. Oh man, that was fun. That was fun. That was fun. I hope, I really hope this listener like feels our love.
Goddess Brittney:I hope they feel our love too and like please let us know how it's going, what is feeling, what is feeling juicy and alive and working for you. And yeah, I'm super excited to get an update.
Lisset :Yeah, I kind of feel bad, but I, I'm the I forgot to mention have. Have you tried being honest? Oh, with the person yeah, about your feelings I think I did say that, but I just can't gotta say it I gotta say it again explicitly, explicitly be honest about your feelings, be honest about your desires. Be honest about your feelings, be honest about your desires, be honest about your needs and receive whatever is said on the other side with love.
Goddess Brittney:Yes, with love. So if you have a question, you know how to hit us up you can send us a DM, you can send us a text at 971-895-4111. And please take this opportunity to like and subscribe to this podcast. As you can see, this is how we keep this alive is by people sharing it and sharing the good word. We love hearing from you and you being a part of our community, so take the opportunity to do so now. Yeah.
Lisset :And until we meet again, be honest with each other.
Goddess Brittney:Bye, bye.
